I am soooo sorry that I haven't updated in so long! Not that the three of you reading this really care (Hi, Mom! She's finally reading this, btw. Sort of.).
Anyways, the reason behind my departure? Pure insanity; I've been busy busy busy for the past three weeks or so, and it's only going to get busier with finals coming up. I study basically every free hour I get, and I've been working on projects, papers and presentations like it's my job. Which it basically is. Anyways, I've also been busy with--now don't get angry--Tumblr.
I know, it's like I'm a traitor almost, but I digress. Tumblr is fantastic, easy, and I am going to try and link this and that up so that they post for each other. We'll see if this results in annoying double-posting, or just plain awesomeness. I'm praying for the latter.
Anyways, I've been posting different things there than I would here, so I think the Tumblr will be sort of like a personal/public journal, while this I think will be more like a blog. Like how it's supposed to be...yeah.
Question of the Day:
Why don't people date anymore?
Honestly, why not? Why can't I have a nice guy I meet ask for my number (while SOBER, and not at a party), then follow through. Follow through, as in we go out to dinner and a movie, have good conversation, and then go to our RESPECTIVE homes and then do it again and again until we feel that it either is or is not going anywhere productive. Share a few physical moments (totally fine, but nothing too much), and get to know each other in every way. Why is this so taboo now? Why do my friends look at me like I'm insane when I say I'm not going to put out on a first date, or even the second date? What is so difficult about not hooking up, about not sleeping with someone randomly and just because "oh hey, you're drunk and mildly attractive/intelligent/whatever your dealmaker is so why not?" (that's rape, that's why not)
Seriously though, why the hell can't people "see each other" with a moderate to small level of commitment and no stress?
Seriously, I've had it up to here (I'm indicating my eyebrows, by the way) with people who either just want to jump head first into a relationship after ONE date, and the people who are just in it for the sex. Honestly, you're not getting it from me, so there's really no point in trying. I'm happily waiting until whenever I feel ready, comfortable and, most importantly, I'm waiting until I love and TRUST the person I'm with. That doesn't mean I'm waiting until marriage or engagement or whatever, it means I'm waiting until it makes sense.
I don't get it. I just don't understand. Help me out!
In other news, I failed a test today. That was super fun. I have to memorize a five minute Hebrew presentation (I can't memorize presentations in English. WHAT are they thinking?!)
However, I went for a run yesterday with Beth (and am consequently sore beyond belief today; it feels like my thighs are desperately trying crush my bones they're so tense), and I've been eating healthier and less. My mother has a few sayings about food that I've taken to heart.
"If you're not hungry enough for an apple, you're not hungry enough."
and
"The best thing to eat, is less."
Now, I know this sounds like pro-anorexia propaganda (I'll give you my story on that subject in the next post, possibly), but it really is true if you take it in moderation. Wait 5 minutes after you've begun eating half you meal before you start the second half. It'll give you time to decide if you're full or not. Also, put your fork/food/spork/spoon down in between bites; I know we're all rushed (especially with the last few weeks of the semester looming) but it's important to take your time.
I'm not actually feeling like talking about this right now.
Maybe later.
Anyways, to counter that, here are my discoveries from the Food Blogs I frequent.
Food Loves Writing
This site has a lot of super healthy options, and some really amazing writing. I love to write (DUH, Miss G, way to be moronically obvious), and I really appreciate good writing. I also appreciate good recipes for good food that are realistic for the average (poor/strapped for time) person.
Loved this recipe for Hasselback Potatoes.
The Pioneer Woman
This woman is fantastic. This woman is phenomenal. This woman is self-made, determined, self-actualized and fantastically wonderfully grounded and intelligent. This woman also has a (hot) rancher for a husband, so I basically want to have her life. Ree Drummond talks about her life on a cattle ranch, but she's no home-raised country girl; she was a city dweller in another life, wearing black heels to work and...well why don't you just go to her "About Me" section. That'll explain my fascination with her.
My favorite recipe? The Cajun Chicken Pasta; my younger brother is a spice fanatic (he literally puts tobasco on EVERYTHING, little booger), and I'm pretty sure if I made this at home one of two things would happen.
Either my brother would go into happy, joyful conniptions of someone finally understanding his need for fatal amounts of spice, or my father would just have a blood-pressure/spice inducedheart attack after walking into the kitchen. Either of those things may or may not occur because they'd both be eternally surprised that yours truly was happy in the kitchen making something that didn't include my favorite ingredients of chocolate and/or cake mix from a box.
So.
Courtesy of Ree Drummond, the Pioneer Woman, and the maker of a fantastic wonderful food blog that makes me want to marry a rancher while simultaneously coming up with fantastic wonderful recipes and popping out adorable children. I almost wrote "chicken" instead of children, but I feel like she might have appreciated that little slip. Oh.
And they both have PRETTY pictures.
Good night!
Love,
Miss Guided
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I had a Tumblr. SUPER easy to use, super crappy to have comments and discussion.
ReplyDeleteAs for why people don't date, I think it may be partly because you live in a college town. There are probably a million girls with low standards and morals, who don't mind being picked up, used, and dropped, in exchange for the couple of hours of attention.
But here is where the disconnect comes in with what you want: the guys who don't want to pick up girls at a drunken party, are the same guys who may be apprehensive about hitting on a random stranger in public. I am the kind of guy who wouldn't try to pick up an intoxicated girl AND the guy who has to build up a lot of nerve to pick up the nice sober girl in an everyday setting as well, it is a personality thing, I think.
Does that make ANY sense?
Oh, one more thought. As for why people want to jump into a relationship, I think again it is a personality thing. The guy who wants to pick you up at a party, want to pick up a different girl at tomorrow's party. The guy who wants to date, probably only wants to date you, after all, if we wanted to date a bunch of people, he would be at the party. In return, even if not stated, he wants you to only date him.
ReplyDelete--"oh hey, you're drunk and mildly attractive/intelligent/whatever your dealmaker is so why not?" (that's rape, that's why not)--
ReplyDeleteuh, that is not rape. Consensual sex, no matter the location or situation, is not rape. I would not go throwing that word around too casually. Yes, I realize that if someone is drunk then legally definitions change, but let's be real, random hookup, no matter how dumb of a reason, does not equal rape. period.
I noticed the rape thing too in the first wording of the draft, but the law says that if one person is drunk and the other isn't, it does constitute as rape. Judgement is lacking, and the sentence I used doesn't imply that both people are drunk. Just one. Did you know a woman was tried and convicted last year because she had sex with a man who was drunk? He reported it as a rape, and it went through. If one person's judgment is skewed while the other is in full control and takes advantage of that fact, it is rape.
ReplyDeleteRegardless, I see your point, and will be more careful with wordings in the future.
Love,
Miss Guided