What to talk about...? Hm...well, I just started my foray into the magical world of eBay. I've never been so overwhelmed before, but I suppose it's for the best that I start. I need to find cheap ways to satisfy designer cravings.
It's funny, because before last year, I never considered myself a fashion lover. I mean, I liked to look good, and I liked to have nice things (not that I or my family can afford them...but resale shops have become worlds better than they once were) but it was never a big part of my life. Now, I've begun toying with the idea that it may not be a horrible thing to love/work on. Regardless, I'm sticking with my 11 year plan.
Yes, that's right, you read it correctly. ELEVEN.
One-One.
It makes me cringe just thinking about it, but I know I can do it. Right? Everyone has things that they want to do, and everyone has goals. Are anyone else's goals as long term as mine? I hope so...
Enough with the heavy stuff. Onto fun things!
Well, there's a 10 day count down until I hit the road. Here's a quick list of what you folks should be doing if you've got the same amount of time left.
- Make sure you're collaborating with your roommate and figure out who's bringing what.
- START PACKING. Get the things that you're not going to need for the next few days into suitcases or storage or something, but get them out of the way. Having a cleaner room will make you feel more ready to get out.
- Get rid of old clothes. If you haven't already cleaned out your closet, you should, and you should also think of selling them to a resale or consignment store for cash to get a good jumpstart on your new clothing. I actually work at one such place, Plato's Closet, and you should DEFINITELY consider selling there. They don't give you a ton of money, but it's better than nothing. Check the website for more info/stores near you. platoscloset.com
- Make a list. I am a list advocate (in case you couldn't tell) and I seriously have like 4 or 5 that have to do with moving in/out. Make one for the clothes you want to bring/just plain want eventually, make one for what you need to have "stuff-" wise, make one for things you want to ask your roommate, etc. Seriously. It'll help your brain compartmentalize the issues going on right now and you'll feel a million times less stressed.
- Get to know people that go to your school now, or will be going. I swear by Facebook. You're school WILL have a group. I promise. If it doesn't, tell me. Or better yet? Go make one yourself.
- Have fun and say goodbye to all your home-friends! You're going to miss them!
Here's a little personal story of my own. I have a friend, someone I've been close to since the first day of our freshman year of high school with us sitting next to each other on the bus and being nervous and dorky about it. He has seen me through weight loss, and boy problems and friend problems and like 3 or 4 school dances. We're close. Anyways, recently I've noticed that his "friends" (we don't hang out in the same groups anymore) are very very much stuck in "high school mode."
What I mean by that is that they refuse to let go of the whole idea of drama being their only way to socialize. Girls are catty to one another, boys are backstabbing jerks...its one big mess made by eight or nine people who refuse to let go of lame stereotypes or are just plain scared of moving ON.
Anyways, the point of this story is that my friend is miserable. He hates being caught in the middle (he's more of an instigator than a participant) but he doesn't want to sever his ties because--here's the kicker--HE'S ROOMING WITH A HIGH SCHOOL FRIEND. One from the group.
Now, I don't care if you and your friend have been best buds since you were in diapers. You probably haven't ever lived together. You may end up hating each other. I hope you don't, and I know a lot of people who have gone through the rooming-as-bffs thing and have still been close, but it will be hard and it will probably suck at times. It will probably suck more because your bff KNOWS your buttons and knows when to push them if she/he wants to piss you off.
Obviously, it's going to suck with a roommate at times anyways, but here are some helpful hints to make it more bearable.
- If you can, go potluck or by survey or with someone you meet at orientation. Rooming with a close friend is like asking for a disaster. You don't want to TRY to ruin your friendship! Distance makes the heart grow fonder and all that trash.
- If you cannot live without your bffae (best friend forever and ever) as your constant companion, schedule "alone time" every three days for at least an hour at a time. You'll want it.
- If you get to the room first on move in day, DON'T claim all the best parts of the room! It's rude and it sets a bad tone. You may, however, lay your stuff on a bed. Don't start un-packing personal things until your roommate gets there. Get your microwave/fridge/rug/lamp, etc set up, or maybe go out and see who else is on your floor and get to know them while you wait.
- If you move in early, like I am, you're going to have to unpack, but an easy way to make this more polite is to make sure that the first thing you say to your roommate on the day she moves in (after the "hellos" and "its so nice to finally meet you") is that you're totally okay with moving things around and you just put your stuff down for the transitory period.
- Follow through with all promises to be flexible.
- Don't crowd her. If she crowds you, spend less time in the room and more time in the library.
- Don't steal her clothes unless she says explicitly that it's alright. Also, KEEP THEM VERY CLEAN.
- If you borrow, let her borrow too.
- Split food costs.
- Enjoy her/him. They're going to be a big part of your life this year, and it can go a number of different ways. Make the best of any situation, and find the good parts about your roomie. She/He will have some excellent traits, no matter how weird they may seem at first.
In other news, I hate my job, and am so happy that I am done with it in 4 days. You really have no idea.
Helpful hint; NEVER WORK RETAIL. Unless the discount proves to be too tempting to resist, in which case the blood, sweat and tears are all worth it.
Alright, that's all I've got for now...I think?
Goodnight!
Miss Guided
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